Should I Stay With My Husband After All He Did???? Help?
here is my story. My husband is young like me 23. weve been married 1 year. we have been fighting alot because im always jealous. Im jelous becase he always was going out staying late not too late but didnt always answer his phone. I also put a key logger on the computer and caught him visiting some sites like friendfinder.com u can meet singles in your area he made a profile but u have to pay for the site but he didnt pay but i saved his profile. He denied it and said its his friend who came by at 10 am ???. he wasnt making love to me much just pleasing himslef and thats it. one night he came home with a valet tag i asked him whats this he said his friend borrowed his car while his was visiting his brother. I was pissed i didnt belive him so i visited my friend whos husband is close with mine. I told her i felt something not right. She told me yah your husband told my hisband him and his brother were at a strip club.He told me alot more stuff too.
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
Sounds to me like your husband isn’t really ready to be married yet. I don’t think a person has to stop having fun just because they get married but it sounds like he hasn’t even cut back and doesn’t include you in his fun. When a married guy goes out with his friends he should always communicate with his wife where he will be and when he will be home. If the wife is jealous then he needs to change his habits and talk to her so that they can find a resolution to the issue. The fact that your husband is lying to you and all just makes it worse. You two need to sit down and discuss if you are both ready to be married and if you are then decide what changes need to occur so that you can stop the fighting and the jealousy and be happy together.
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
talk to him and tell him you are serious about this marriage and he obviously is not. tell him what your needs are. maybe he will open up and tell you what is going on. seek counseling.
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
Well if you want sex with him get him started and he may change his way or go to the strip club when he leaves and see if he’s there but thats all I have to say
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
Ok what is it going to take for you to see that something aint right.The day that he comes and telLs you that he’s wants a divorce or when he no longer cares and you see another woman riding in your car. I think that he wanted you to check the computer i think thats its a trust issue.
Why was he at home at 10:00 am does he work?
HELLO
If you share a computer why would he go to that site when he knows that you use that computer too.I think that he wants you to see what he does so that he would like for you to become jealous those are the games that men play.
If you feel GOOD ABOUT YOUR SELF THEN LEAVE THAT ***. thats why I left men alone I dont have time for DRAMA
Get a woman
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
no ditch his ***!
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
he’s doing those things because you don’t trust him and you are very jealous to almost everything he does. trust is important so try to avoid being so jealous and be at your best and trust him. you’re still lucky because he’s still doesn’t have a serious relationship to other woman, so it means that it’s not yet too late. if he’s doing something wrong, ask yourself why he’s doing it, maybe you’re lacking something to be a good wife, for him to be a good husband, too. husbands and wife have both responsbilities to each other.
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
he is bored and looking for excitement elsewhere. should’nt have gotten married, until you are sure.
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
He wasn’t ready for marriage, but he got married because he wants his papers. You need to pack up and leave, if you don’t trust me when I say that after he gets his papers he is going to pack up and leave you.
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
Considering your questions, I’m unsure what to actually believe.
However, I do believe you have no marriage, and do not belong together.
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
It is obvious he is hiding stuff from you. Without trust there can be no relationship.
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
time to check out of this relationship completely.
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
it is not looking good…tell him that all you want is for him to be truthful and faithful to you. you are both young so have fun, just make sure you find time for each other before it is to late.
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
this is the reason why people should not be married until they are emotionally mature…….
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
i think you should find out what he wants…for me i will only leave if he cheats but cheating is not just sex…having a relaitonship with another person is taking away from yours …if he wants it …get counselling…386
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
Naw…he’s obviously not ready to be married if he’s out looking for someone new. Why wait for him to cheat if he hasn’t already? Too many diseases out there to take the chance on that. He needs to grow up. Good luck.
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
Man, you got some issues to deal with. First of all your very insecure and second you should leave him if you feel that strongly about him cheating. Just because things seem great now doesn’t mean they won’t get worst again. Your history with this man shows that.
Maybe you married to young. You may not be mature enough to deal with the responsibilities of a marriage. Seek marriage counseling o counseling for yourself. Good Luck!
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
know just sit down and talk to him and tell him that you didn’t went him to be at the ship culd
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
I would listen to all these people…it sounds like he’s too immature for marraige right now. If he wasn’t doing something wrong he would be truthful about where he’d been and what he was up to, even if he was at the strip club. You guys need to sit down and really evalutae your relationship.
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
I know that you are hurt. I’m sorry. Cheating hurts and love is NOT suppose to feel this way. You are young and deserve to be happy and you are NOT happy. Don’t wait until you are old and bitter to figure things out. I have to tell you that things don;t get better, they get worse, and the lies will keep on coming and you will be just waiting at the window waiting for him to come home. LOVE is not like this and marriage should NOT be like this.
My heart goes to you and I hope that you get smart and for your own good, get out of this relationship. I know that is a difficult decision to make, specially when you love someone…but honey, he doesn’t respect you, he is inmature and looking for someone else…. LOVE YOURSELF and make a decision soon, you DESERVE to be happy .
Good luck
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
I would find out why he is doing all of these things and then base my decision off of that. The important thing to remember is how do YOU feel about him doing all of these things. If you have a problem with it; leave no matter what anyone else says. If you think his behavior is okay then stay regardless of what anybody else says. If you choose to act based on someone else’s opinon, then you may always regret it.
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
Did your marriage vows include “for better or for worse”? Work it out!
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
You might both try marriage counseling if you believe you want to save the marriage. But I sense a lot of immaturity on both parts and perhaps you both married wrong being so young. Talk to someone who can counsel you.
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
You should leave him and find someone else who’s better. Don’t waste anymore of your youth. One year married to him is more than enough. If you leave him now it would be easier than waiting more years. Then you will be too old to find someone else. That would be a big waste. Don’t let him destroy your future which could be a very bright and happy one. Imagine a happier marriage, do it.
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
If you have no kids, get out now. it’s obvious that he thinks he can still go out and do whatever and if he doesn’t want to make love to you anymore, something is definitely up. I say leave. He’s not worth it.
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
You both need to have a good heart to heart.
Tell him you need the truth or you have to leave him.
Tell him you can’t live like this anymore.
I wouldn’t just give up, suggest counsellings. Talk to his brother, family, friends.
Jealousy will get you NO WHERE fast. You need to get past that. Can you go out with him? Explain you want to go out with him, his friends, his brother or whatever… find out just what is going on.
Do you share bank accounts?, Do you have kids, Do you own your own home?
Seek the help of family and friends.
Hope you 2 can work something out, but otherwise get out of the relationship, seek counsellings for yourself to end the jealousy issues you have, grow up some and look for someone new.
Good luck in whatever it is you choose.
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
I’m a man and I’m telling you to leave this guy. You have a right to be jealous because of the things your husband is doing. What you are telling me you would not be as jealous if your husband was not doing these things. Have you thought about going to a marriage counselor ? This might work. I hope things work out and I will be praying for you both.
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
That sucks! I would sit him down and ask him if he wants out. If he does, then he won’t be faithful. It sounds like 1 of 2 things. 1 – he is looking for someone else or 2 – he is wanting to get your attention, test you or maybe just get your goat. If you are being jealous, maybe he is looking to give you a reason to be….
Good luck
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
I FEEL BAD FOR YOU BECAUSE I KNOW YOU LOVE HIM AND YOU ARE STILL MAD AND HURT AT THE SAME TIME. I THINK IS TIME FOR A HEART TO HEART TALK WITH HIM AND LET IT ALL OUT. YOU NEED TO SEE WHAT YOU BOTH WANT. GOOD LUCK
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
Yuck! What a bad situation! You need to get out before he hurts you anymore than he already has. He obviously isn’t being honest with you. Turn to your friends and family to help you out!
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
HELLO…………just pack and go. Dont boders……
You can get AIDS because of him…ind some one thats really love you…..he is not ready.
May 10th, 2009 at 6:14 pm
Kick the JERK’s butt out.